Life, marriage, and coming up in the corporate space has thrown a number of curveballs my way. Cursed with my dad’s desire to tackle every idea or project at once, I was forced to take a step back and evaluate exactly how I wanted to manage my growth as a young adult moving forward. In the past, I would try to catch every one of those curveballs, and would eventually get smacked hard in the face if one of them managed to fly past my grip. It could be an extra load of work responsibilities, bigoted idiots at the office, or maybe you’re just having a terrible day... Some things you have to let go.
Hello, there! My name is Jamal, and I’ve got one foot off of the hamster wheel. As a thirty-four year old man, I’m on a journey to find balance in my life; whatever that may look like. Moving through the world as a gay, Black man has been an interesting ride. From a young age I was taught to always be ten steps ahead of the competition, because it was the only way I’d be noticed.
Over time, I began to realize I was biting off way more than I could chew, and was hindering my development personally and professionally. I’m a husband, a professional, a creator, and a student who loves to have a good time. I don’t have to do the absolute most to prove my worth in this world. Checking in with myself on a more regular basis has helped. “Do you need the extra stress?” I’ll ask myself on a Monday or when I get a random idea for the website or another project. “Are you doing this for you, or for someone else?” Convincing myself not to take on any extra work before I even finish pondering the question.
My blog, Gays in the Life, started as a platform discussing lessons in marriage. Being in a gay, interracial relationship for the past nine years (married for six), and coming up in corporate America as a Black man, it was important for me to share those stories and experiences with my readers. The better we connect, the better we’ll learn and understand each other. I find that talking about the topics and moments that shaped me or inspired content on my website not only helps others grow, but also helps me connect to you, the reader, listener, or viewer.
What I hope to share with readers and listeners of Your Queer Story, is a desire for making life a pinch easier, more enjoyable, and defining what success looks like for you. We’ve done a lot of growing up, reader, but we’re not done yet. Whether it’s topics in relationships, the professional space, making healthier lifestyle choices, or discussions surrounding race and sexuality, I’ve got some spicy and realistic insight for you.
Outside of doing my best to influence the queer internet, you can find me co-hosting my podcast, Thanks for Coming, where we cover all things RuPaul’s Drag Race and topics in queer culture. I’m really active on my Instagram at the moment, sharing vlogs surrounding Black Lives Matter and my experiences in the corporate space, too. I appreciate you all taking the time to get to know a little about me. I look forward to getting to know all of you.